How does one succeed in life?
Last Updated: 02.07.2025 02:48
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
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How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
Do not set goals—set systems.
Ask yourself:
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
Why do people with trauma easily recognize other people with trauma through eye contact?
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
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Does not procrastinate.
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
Why did my bipolar girlfriend split up with me?
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
Living to your full potential is a goal.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
What I need from you?
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
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Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
Procrastinates a lot.
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
That's it for today.
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
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The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Is there a band whose members have been present for every one of their concerts?
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Making more friends is a goal.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.